Who I Am
Open. Caring. Here to Listen and Help.
I am an honest, thoughtful, caring and devoted friend. Throughout my life, people I know and complete strangers alike, have spilled their deepest fears, life events, secrets, and unshakeable situations with me. I can't explain why, but it has happened frequently enough, that there's something about me that is approachable and inviting to those who need solace. Perhaps, in part, this is due to my history of navigating through a mountain of unusual, challenging, and painful experiences. I have persistently chosen happiness and am here to encourage others to do the same. I am not: dogmatic; religious; political; judgmental; nor am I a Karen pushing any form of an agenda. I don't believe everything happens for a reason. Yes, the world around us and universe are undeniably connected, but there isn't an overarching purpose behind every activity or event. Chaos, randomness, tragedy, and trauma happen daily in our world and there isn't a known cause or moral justification for any of it. I believe one sees the world with more clarity and approachability when they stop looking for the 'why' behind every awful thing they've seen. I am also not a therapist, trained or licensed counselor, or expert in the field of mental health (which for some, is refreshing). If you are feeling as though you may harm yourself or someone else, please call a professional or a crisis line immediately. I am not the right resource if someone's life is in danger.
What I Believe In
human to human connection is everything
From X to Z
Advice for young adults from the generation (X) that uses technology without being possessed by it. Young adults grew up with cell phones and social media separating them from the human experience while adding layers of complicated disconnect. I can help you learn how to develop your interior self from the ground up, build resilience and coping skills, and learn how you will best connect with others and communicate as authentically you. Lets shed some of the unfair and punishing challenges gen Z faces.
Relating to others
Whether you feel isolated socially, in dating, with family estrangement, living with a disability or health issue, or whatever is making you feel other, separated, and alone - I am here to work through what we can change and learn how to better cope with what we can't. Do you struggle with how to give yourself what you need to feel joy, release the negative, and find deep satisfaction despite complexities, limitations, fixations, etc. How to build lasting relationships with yourself and others to bring in more joy and pleasure to your life.
Philosophy-based living
Lets find a philosophy to ground you and align with your interior self, to give you energy, and a meaningful blueprint for major decisions such as building your career, your family, raising yourself, your children, your emotionally immature parents, whatever you need to change for the better. Once you've built a solid foundation for yourself, you can set the best boundaries, adjust to unanticipated change, empower those around you, and navigate your life with resilience and confidence.
Services
My chair is open to you in many ways. You can DM (direct message) me for a quick direct response to a specific question. You can set-up private or public time with me with just audio, with audio for you/video for me, or both of us on video. If you are wondering why I'm offering the option for publicly posted videos - this offers a community aspect for people not willing or ready to discuss their issues directly, but that could benefit from hearing what you're going through and my related advice. These sessions are at a discount since it benefits our online community.
Testimonials
Coming soon
FAQs
Common Questions
What if I'm unsure about my session being public?
If you know you want your session private, book a private session. I only record sessions when someone has booked a public session and signed a public session release form. I use Zoom for all of our sessions and that platform is always transparent letting you if and when a session is being recorded. I also don't do live stream sessions, so there wouldn't be a scenario where a public session being live in the moment. This gives both of us the option to change our minds about making this session publicly available.
In the event that you book a public session and decide after we speak that you want our conversation to remain private, I will honor your wishes and bill you for the difference between the public/private session rate.
How long are sessions?
Intro calls last 5-10 minutes and allow us time to get on the same page ahead of a scheduled session. Private and public sessions can be 25 or 50 min in length. Crisis sessions are more flexible in length depending on our mutual availability. You can also opt to work with me over email if that's more comfortable.
What issues can our sessions address?
Human to human connection is not just important it's essential to our happiness and ability to thrive. This is why we can build a solid foundation for you together.
I don't believe everything happens for a reason. Yes, the world around us and universe are undeniably connected, but there isn't an overarching purpose behind every activity or event. Chaos, randomness, tragedy, and trauma happen daily in our world and there isn't a known cause or moral justification for any of it. I believe one sees the world with more clarity and approachability when they stop looking for the 'why' behind every awful thing they've seen. No matter what situation you'd like help with, I am not going to offer you any advice that requires you take a leap of faith or adopt any structured belief system.
There are several ways to start building meaning in your daily life and cultivating joy through new avenues, such as: establishing community, putting down roots, fostering a career or vocation that gives you energy, building a solid interior self which can support and weather your journey, building a sense of family where positivity and love flows freely. We'll develop your self-possession, awareness, resilience, and ability to generate joy, peace, and purpose whenever and wherever you need it.
Do you offer any benefits in exchange for referrals?
I do, indeed. Referrals are a critical element for building and expanding my reach. If you are happy with any of my services, and recommend me to a friend who mentions your name, I'll be happy to give you either a 3 question DM package or a 25 min private session free of charge. If you'd like to refer several friends, I'm open to working out something mutually beneficial for us.
How does the booking process work for sessions?
First, you should decide if you'd like to start with 25 min or 50 min, and then think about if you'd like a private or public session. The public session is offered at a lower cost since I post our conversation for the benefit of others. If you prefer our conversation stays between us, go with a private session.
Click on the 'book now' button below, and you will be lead to a page where you can select the session type and length you desire. You will pick a day and time that works for you. You will be asked to pay for the session at the time of booking. Next, as a one-time activity, I will email you a link to sign a release. This ensures you that in addition to you understanding that I am not a professional therapist or counselor treating you as a client and you also sign to release your likeness (in video and/or audio) in the event that you decide to participate in a public session. If you never intend to participate in a public session, I will not send you a release. After you've signed your release, I will reach out to you to schedule a quick 5-10 min intro call so we can get on the same page about goals for your session without having to use session time. I will then send you an email with a link for joining our session, including instructions on how to download Zoom if you don't have it. I ask that you try to join our call 5 minutes early in case we have any connectivity issues.
If you have any questions or concerns about the booking process, you can always reach out directly to me openchairwithem@protonmail.com